Life Is About Giving Not Only Getting

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Life Is About Giving Not Only Getting

I have realized that life is about giving not only getting . So when we get things done with joy and harmony with people and helping them grow and become more than they even have been before, then you have one of the treasured talents anyone can ever possess. The world needs people like you. It is waiting to reward you highly in material or emotional benefits, to give you the things you want.

Many people get so blinded by what they want that they give very little thought to fulfilling the needs of others.

• Mary knows what she wants from her husband, but what he wants never fully gets through to her.
• The foreman knows he wants those lug bolts tightened as the body frame comes through the assembly line, but what does the one doing the tightening want?
• The parents know the way they want their children to grow up, but do they show as much concern for what the children want (emotionally, that is?)
• The salesman has a strong desire to sell the stove but is almost afraid to ask about the prospect’s wants, for fear the product won’t fit.
• Paul feels that Jane does not love him the way he wants to be loved. Maybe it’s because he has been blind to her wants and needs.
• The teacher wants that dull, sleepy-eyed teenager to be more attentive, but what does the gawky young stalk of humanity want? Has enough regard been invested in that?

Everyone wants something from someone else and becomes frustrated when it does not happen.

Do you know what happens next? They try punishing people, just what people DO NOT want, in an effort to get what they want. (Not a good idea at all.)

The air is cold when Mary doesn’t get what she wants. The foreman chews out the lug bolt tightener. The parents scold, spank, and threaten when the children do not fit the mold. The salesman jabbers on desperately when it appears the prospect is lukewarm. “Maybe Jane will shape up if I make her a little jealous, “Paul reasons. And the teacher threatens, shames, and disciplines, in futile attempts to shake off the teenager’s lethargy.

So that’s the story of the human being in a highly individualized society. Divorces, splits in families, high job turnover, heavy hearts, wasted careers, crumbled dreams, lonely lives, all haunted by ineffective efforts to relate to other people.

Find out what people want.

Then help them get it.

That’s the way to reverse most of those distressing situations!