How To Program Yourself For Success
How To Program Yourself For Success
As I stand on my busy street corner and I sit and watch the passers by. I sit and question myself how many of these people have specific goals in their life which they are pursuing? Or are they just busy going to work with no specific goals in mind?
But if I were to ask every person that passed me on that street corner, I would safely assume none of them had any goals that extended pass this day.
When I ask my friends about goal setting, they tell me that’s my manager’s job. Setting goals is what the coach does or managers often do. Setting goals is the President’s job or people involved in large companies. I grin and say…hmm Then I think, how can my friends have time to set goals when their pay checks aren’t even large enough to cover the bills?
Maybe those pay checks will never be large enough to pay the bills and maybe never will be, because they have NO goals, no concrete plans on how to improve their life, no ideas on how to raise their income, improve their talents, expand their knowledge, or increase their value to society! Sadly many are skippers of ships that lead no where!
Dr. Fitshugh Dodson’s books, How To Parent, How To Father, he shares with you a simple commonsense plan to help you begin the life you deserve.
A goal is an objective you want to achieve. A plan is a specific way of reaching Both goals and plans are ideas of the mind.
Everything you wear, everything in your house or apartment, even the building you are living in had to thought of before it could exist. And then the design, manufacturing and marketing of it became goals for someone. Even your toothbrush began as an idea, with a specific plan to achieve it.
All objects began as goals, plans and ideas in the minds of people. This is such a revolutionary concept, once you really take a hold of it, for you have the understanding of the world of thought. Unfortunately many people tend to look down up the world of thought. When we call a person an intellectual, it is not always meant as a compliment. We respect the “doers”forgetting that every “doer”is first a thinker. The world is changed by goals and plans conceived in the minds of men and women.
It’s really sad when you realise that our school system neglects to teach students how to set their own goals and make realistic plans to achieve them. Did you ever hear a course like that in high school? I never have.
Again I ask my friends about goals and they come up with the ideas that success in business, science or something along these lines. They don’t mention the non professional, personal life, like marriage!
A former patient of Dr. Dodson, Arthur, a forty three year old man who owned his businesses and came to him because of increase “attack of nerves,”as he described it, in his work. He had just opened another men’s clothing store. Business was doing well financially, but problems with his manager at the new store was increasing. The manager had been a really good employee until he assumed his new position. Now he suddenly wanted to change may of the concepts that had brought Arthur success in the first place. Having always prided himself on his business judgement, Arthur was now losing confidence in himself. Was he falling behind the times? At forty three, was be becoming an old fog?
As he discussed the problems, Arthur kept on mentioning his wife, Marie. They had been married for twenty years and had two teenage children. He would state how encouraging his wife was at the beginning when he had to struggle to establish his business. Although he didn’t come to talk to the Dr Dodson, to talk about his marriage, it lead that way. Dr. Dodson pointed out the closeness he had enjoyed during their early marriage seemed to be replaced by a dull flatness. So some goals and plans had to be implemented to change this. Arthur said, “I’m amazed Doc, I never thought to make goals for my marriage like I do for my business!”He mentioned that in his early days of his marriage he used to “romance” his wife, as he put it, but it had been years since they had done something spontaneous or romantic.
So after long discussions, it was decided to pot some romance back into his married life. Arthur decided to buy a supply of “love message”cards for his wife and mail her one from time to time. He did celebrate his anniversary every year. So it was also decided that every same date anniversary so in his case it was the sixteenth, to celebrate every month and do something fun together. Also to go out to dinner more often without the kids.
Most of you would be thinking now, that that is something he should already know. Hmm the answer is if Dr. Dodson had left it up to him, he might never have thought of them spontaneously! This way, he got started on the program, his wife was so happy that she began to cook special dishes he liked and other little thoughtful things the way she had done early in their marriage. Arthur told Dr. Dodson, “We’re beginning to live with a king of ‘zing’ I’d forgotten about.”As his marriage relationship began to change, he was also making a great deal of progress in his business relationships. Creativity in one area often helps in another.